Ever had someone, maybe a coworker or friend, doubt you and try to extinguish your fire? The ones who, if they don’t just come out and say it, give little doubt how they feel about the chances of you accomplishing what it is you want to accomplish? Could be a promotion, a personal goal like weight loss, starting your own business, etc…
Of course you have. We all have. And, I think we can all agree, it’s not only annoying but probably a little hurtful, too.
It’s just human nature to be skeptical, of course, and in some ways a healthy dose of skepticism is beneficial.
Like when your friend tells you about a great opportunity that first requires you to buy pallets full of toilet bowl cleaner and sounds an awful lot like a pyramid scheme. Or when someone tells you something, anything, is a “sure thing”.
But nobody cares about that right now. What we’re talking about here is raining on your parade, shitting on your goals, and dousing you in baseless negativity. The kind that, if you allow it, can derail your grand plans and cause you to doubt your ambitions.
But…you don’t have to allow this to happen. Instead of hanging your head and believing the bullshit, you can instead use their doubts and skepticism as fuel to drive you even further.
And, honestly, who doesn’t like to stick it to all those naysayers who said it couldn’t be done? There are few better feelings that I’m aware of.
So today, do me a favor: Take some time and write down everything you’ve accomplished up to this point: Education, promotions, marrying the love of your life, bouncing back from addiction, running a marathon, whatever it might be. Give it some thought and after a few minutes of jotting it all down, I think you’ll be surprised at what you see.
Then, just as importantly, think of those who are questioning your ability to achieve your current goals and use their words and skepticism to fill your tank.
Call it what you will: Drive, ambition, redemption, revenge, whatever. The important thing is that you absorb it and use it to reignite your flame.
Once that’s done…get back to work.