Let Others Fill Your Tank For Free

Ever had someone, maybe a coworker or friend, doubt you and try to extinguish your fire? The ones who, if they don’t just come out and say it, give little doubt how they feel about the chances of you accomplishing what it is you want to accomplish? Could be a promotion, a personal goal like weight loss, starting your own business, etc…

Of course you have. We all have. And, I think we can all agree, it’s not only annoying but probably a little hurtful, too.

It’s just human nature to be skeptical, of course, and in some ways a healthy dose of skepticism is beneficial.

Like when your friend tells you about a great opportunity that first requires you to buy pallets full of toilet bowl cleaner and sounds an awful lot like a pyramid scheme. Or when someone tells you something, anything, is a “sure thing”.

But nobody cares about that right now. What we’re talking about here is raining on your parade, shitting on your goals, and dousing you in baseless negativity. The kind that, if you allow it, can derail your grand plans and cause you to doubt your ambitions.  

But…you don’t have to allow this to happen. Instead of hanging your head and believing the bullshit, you can instead use their doubts and skepticism as fuel to drive you even further.

And, honestly, who doesn’t like to stick it to all those naysayers who said it couldn’t be done? There are few better feelings that I’m aware of.

So today, do me a favor: Take some time and write down everything you’ve accomplished up to this point: Education, promotions, marrying the love of your life, bouncing back from addiction, running a marathon, whatever it might be. Give it some thought and after a few minutes of jotting it all down, I think you’ll be surprised at what you see.

Then, just as importantly, think of those who are questioning your ability to achieve your current goals and use their words and skepticism to fill your tank.

Call it what you will: Drive, ambition, redemption, revenge, whatever. The important thing is that you absorb it and use it to reignite your flame.

Once that’s done…get back to work.

Rick

4 thoughts on “Let Others Fill Your Tank For Free

  1. This post has some perfect timing! I’ve been blogging about my personal journey, but have to date, avoided actually sharing with people I know in general. Years of negativity and fear of being judged. This post reminded me that part of my journey is to believe in me and learn to face the poop patrol. Thank you for this! My resolve is stronger daily.

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    1. So glad it helped 🙂 Yes…in the words of Elliott Hulse, “people will drop seeds on you. Don’t let their seeds grow.”

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  2. sundaymorningwithsandy.com August 3, 2019 — 3:09 pm

    I am going to have to try this exercise! I went to a writing class and the teacher told me that writing an autobiography is so difficult and really brought me down. I have to get that out of my head.

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    1. Yep it’s easy to doubt ourselves and what’s possible. A lot of that is listening to those around us. Writing your accomplishments down I think gives you a boost by reminding you that you’ve accomplished a lot already

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