Some random thoughts on this Monday based on a conversation I had over the weekend with my stepdaughter, but it also applies to my stepson and my own son and daughter.
We were talking about the anxiety some people feel when making big changes in their lives, in this case changing jobs. What I tried to convey to them is the importance of not over analyzing things. If you’re 20 or 25 or even 30 years “old”, you need to realize and remind yourself that you have another 50+ years on this Earth. Take a minute to think about that.
With very few exceptions it’s almost impossible to f##k your life up at this point because there’s so much time to recover and rebuild. So chill. Take some chances. Save a little cash but also live a little and understand what you’re doing now is simply laying the foundation for your life years from now. If you screw up today, it’s not the end of the world. Learn from it and move on. It’s not that big of a deal. Seriously.
Once that foundation is complete, what gets built on top can be remodeled, renovated, added to or even torn down completely and rebuilt to meet the needs of your future self. That’s because if there’s one thing I know for sure it’s that none of us will be the same person in 20 years as we are today.
Every experience you have, good or bad, painful or pleasurable, will add value to your future self so don’t freak out too much. Experiences, whether it be in your relationships, your career, or just in your life choices, are cumulative and one experience will never define your entire life, or at least you shouldn’t allow it.
The fact that life is fluid and not stagnant is something we should all embrace because this fluidity is exactly what allows us to evolve, change our minds and change directions whenever we choose. And that is a powerful thing.